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Hello fellow men of reddit, As the title reads, I am wondering: what are some of your tips/practical tricks to be more confident in yourselves and your achievements? A little about myself: objectively, I am aware that there is stuff to be proud of. I speak 7 languages (4 of which fluently), I play several sports and a couple of instruments and I am generally good at most things. I think I am quite intelligent, have a good sense of humor, I am caring, driven and try my hardest to be a good person to my friends and family. I have achieved some pretty cool stuff, like running a marathon, speaking at the United Nations, I am about to get a PhD, and more stuff that I won’t list here because that’s not the point. As I said, there is a lot to be proud of and a lot that should give me confidence in myself. And yet, whenever I talk to people, this all disappears and I find myself to be the quiet, shy version of myself that does not think much of himself. This is especially true when it comes to women - and yes, much of the reason behind this post is my difficulty in approaching/talking to women (but honestly it’s a struggle that I have with anyone and in any social situation). So there, I theoretically have all the ingredients that should make me at least interesting to talk to. But whenever I find myself talking to someone, I don’t want to talk about any of it in fear of coming across as arrogant or braggy (it took me like 20 mins to type out the paragraph above due to the same fear lol). And the confidence that should come from my traits also disappears because I don’t want to bring them up. So yes: if any of you can relate, or have been in similar situations, how do you cope with it? Are there any strategies or tricks that have worked for you and have helped you be more kind to yourself and to feel more confident without resorting to arrogance in order to show your qualities? Thank you in advance for the advice! submitted by /u/eliseogalli

Originally posted by u/eliseogalli on r/AskMen