My boyfriend (47m) and I (43f) have been exclusively together for 8 months. We have had a few arguments lately and things have just felt off. Last night we were watching a movie and he got a phone call, which he silenced. I asked him who it was and he said it was a spam call. That seemed odd to me with it being so late. When he left for work this morning, I decided to do a terrible thing and look at his watch to see if he was telling me the truth. Unfortunately, the last calls had not synced to the watch for some reason so I couldn’t see it. But I was able to see his messages. I found that he had been messaging back and forth with a coworker. The first problem was when she sent a picture of her and her kids. My boyfriend replied, “good looking kids. and their mom…. 🥵”. She went on to send him another picture of just herself. Then she mentioned having gained some weight, to which he said “you look great, looks like from your pictures you have been attractive your whole adult life.” Then he sent her a picture of himself with no shirt on to show her his progress and to say he is trying to “trim down.” Then she said she wanted to go to the beach but didn’t want to go alone. At that point they started planning a beach trip together. A few times in there they mentioned calling each other saying things like “sorry, can’t talk right now but I will call you back later.” When I confronted him about this, he initially downplayed it saying she was just a friend, the comments meant nothing, and he planned to tell me about the beach trip. He also became upset with me for having gone through his messages. Later, he did apologize for the inappropriate comments and said he wouldn’t be go anywhere with her and he would cut off contact. I’m just not sure how to trust him. I don’t even know for sure they didn’t already have their beach trip. I’m so hurt and I don’t know what to think. submitted by /u/Findingmeafterlosing
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