Hey everyone. I feel bad writing this, but honestly I just want other peoples thoughts. I know it’s not my place to have an opinion on because I chose to be with her, but my girlfriend has been with a lot of guys before me. Specifically we’re talking double digits. For reference we are both 23. She loves me, and I love her so much. It’s just hard for me to stop thinking about her past sometimes. I’ve been with 1 person other than her so we’re kind of polar opposites when it comes to that. When she told me the number all I was thinking was “wow”. It stuck with me for a bit I’m not going to lie, but what really felt like a stab in the heart was when we were talking one time and she was going through her old videos and photos on her phone and she saw a video of her having sex with someone and she said something along the lines of “oh haha I can’t show you that. It was my birthday so it doesn’t count” and in the moment I was just frozen and my heart was broken. That was right when we started dating, we’ve been dating for 3 months now as of today! She’s also told me before, she’s only been in one relationship before and I’m the only one she’s brought home to her parents. She told me that she straight up just had sex with dudes even when she didn’t feel like it. A guy was trying to have sex with her and she just did it just because. It’s just a lot for me to handle, but I do feel like I handle it well. If I’m being honest, I love her. I feel bad that I think about this a lot. It’s just hard for me to comprehend sometimes because she only stopped acting like this recently. She was doing stuff like this only a few months before we became official. We spoke about everything I was insecure about. She told me that’s not her and she changed, and I’m trying to believe her. So far she’s been sweet, loyal, caring, and she listens to almost everything I ask when it comes to other guys. I just feel like my mind is confused because of her past, but she’s acting the opposite you know? I feel bad man. She’s amazing. I hate that I’m insecure sometimes, and I know I might sound like a shitty guy because of what I’m saying and stuff but man i wanna make it work with her. I just wanted to ask… does this feeling get better overtime? What do you guys think? Whenever we are together I don’t think about it much, only from time to time. However when I’m home or not with her I think about it more. I will say, I do trust her 100%. I just don’t want to be in a situation where I hear about these people or we come across them together. I’m trying my best guys I really am. I just need someone to talk to me, give me advice, snap me out of it, I don’t know. I don’t have anyone to talk to. Oh and I almost forgot, she made it known that she likes a specific type of guy. I’m from PR and she told me she likes Hispanic guys. Which is cool like i understand people have a type, but she would obsess with brown male music artists and I just don’t know what to do or how to feel because I hate telling her how I feel and asking her not to do things like this anymore, but I don’t wanna change her character or personality. I don’t know man I just don’t like her calling other dudes hot in front of my face, celebrity or not. Thanks everyone. I hope i don’t come across as too much of a loser and a jerk. I’m trying my best and just need some advice. submitted by /u/backatthebarnyard76
Originally posted by u/backatthebarnyard76 on r/AskMen
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