Woman here (36)… I met a guy (45) at the gym… We bump into each other somewhat often and are in the same cycling class. The first time we made eye contact, it was kind of intense, not in a creepy way. I walked into class and took the bike next to him, he turned around looked at me, I looked up at him and 😶 uhhh what just happened… lol We’ve made small talk, I can tell at time he gets “nervous” but will keep the conversation going. And it’s always great. He’s on the quieter side and keeps to himself. I like that! I’m a confident person, very straightforward and don’t shy away from much. I’m not the nervous type either. I want something, I say it. But I’m not “aggressive”. More like cool as a cucumber haha. I would think by now he’d say something but hasn’t. I’ve tried to throw subtle hints that I’m curious/interested in him. Pretty sure he is too. We bond over many things and have pretty similar mindsets as we’re both in the same line of work. It’s been a month and don’t want to wait much longer lol so I want to ask him out. However, I’ve never asked a guy out… I say I’m not the nervous type but I’m nervous af. Am i overthinking this? How do I do it? Do I wait a little longer? Do I even do it? He’s single btw EDIT: And yes I may be the things I listed but ive also been single for a year after a nine year relationship so this is “new” to me. submitted by /u/kiwimuffintop
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