I, (20M), haven’t had much luck with dating, and i feel like my performance on first dates is to blame. I just become so nervous and awkward and I feel like im not asking or saying or doing the right things. Like Im pretty good at speaking to women when drunk at the club but when im sober its a struggle. It’s crazy because when im on a dating app talking to a girl im actually pretty decent. Im speaking to this one girl, I matched with on hinge, we’ve moved to insta rn and its been going so well and I do need to ask her out, tho ive already floated the idea of a coffee. I’m just so scared that when the first date comes, I’ll just fumble it like I always do. I don’t get it. Its exhausting because with all the dates I’ve been on i still always falter. When I speak to guys, that I dont know in person, its actually so easy to get to know them better and be friends. But with girls idk what it is, like all my insecurities stifle me and I just cant get my words out. I do ask about them and their hobbies all the time. I make sure to do that because ive seen women complain about how the guy doesnt ask about them. But after that there’s always this long silence, and then its like im having to think what to fill it with. Does anyone have any advice? Thanks submitted by /u/Cheap_Ad8346
Originally posted by u/Cheap_Ad8346 on r/AskMen
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