I need to go on a little rant and I’m curious what men actually think about this. I had my very first date a while ago, and I was extremely nervous. I’m not exaggerating… I genuinely felt like I was about to have a heart attack. Originally, we planned to go out for dinner, but before the date I texted him and asked if we could just grab a coffee instead because I knew I wouldn’t be able to eat if I was that anxious. He was totally fine with it. During the date, the conversation actually flowed really well. We talked a lot, laughed a lot, and there weren’t any awkward silences. I wasn’t quiet or unable to hold a conversation at all. The only thing was my body language. I’m pretty sure it gave away how nervous I was. I felt really tense the whole time, and we also weren’t physically touchy at all. He kept a bit of distance, and neither of us really initiated any physical contact. In the end, we both decided not to take things any further for different reasons. It wasn’t a dramatic ending or anything… it just wasn’t the right fit. This isn’t really about that date anymore, it just got me thinking. I often hear men say they find shy women cute. But do you actually mean it? What is it that you find cute about it? Is there a point where shyness becomes unattractive or frustrating? If a woman is clearly nervous but still talks normally and is engaged in the conversation, how do you perceive that? And another question: are you guys just as nervous on first dates but better at hiding it? submitted by /u/Adventurous_Gur_4266
Originally posted by u/Adventurous_Gur_4266 on r/AskMen