I’m a 25-year-old guy, and I’m dealing with something that’s making me really anxious. There’s a woman I’m talking to, and we’re both interested in having sex. The problem is that instead of feeling excited, I feel nervous. I’ve had sex three times in the past, and each time I was so anxious that I either couldn’t get an erection or it wasn’t as firm as it normally is. Because of those experiences, I’m scared the same thing will happen again. What makes it worse is that she’s very attractive and has a lot more sexual experience than I do. She was with the same guy for 7–8 years and has told me he was really good in bed. Ever since hearing that, I can’t stop comparing myself to him. Even when we were just talking about having sex, instead of feeling turned on, my mind immediately went to thoughts like, “What if I can’t do it?” and “What if I disappoint her?” That anxiety seems to take over, and I worry it will affect my erection again. For context, I do get normal erections during masturbation, although I masturbate once or twice a day. Has anyone else experienced something similar? If this sounds like performance anxiety, what helped you overcome it? Any practical advice would be appreciated. submitted by /u/outofyourleague78
Originally posted by u/outofyourleague78 on r/AskMen
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