I’m starting to think about dating again after a long-term relationship, and I’m realizing I feel really anxious about being judged physically. In my last relationship, my partner became very focused on my appearance and “imperfections,” and it affected how I see myself and my comfort being vulnerable. Things like body changes, loose skin, cellulite, or just being a normal human at home started to feel like flaws instead of… just life. I think what I’m really trying to understand is — when you’re dating someone or looking for a long-term partner, how much do those “real life” things actually impact attraction for you? Do you find yourself focusing on those details, or does attraction feel more holistic when you genuinely like someone? I’m trying to figure out what’s realistic vs what might have just been my specific experience, because I want to be able to show up as myself without feeling like I’m being constantly evaluated. submitted by /u/idontknowyou156
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