Me f and my partner have been together for 12 years, since we were 16. We are fairly codependent, probably due to growing up together and are currently going through that next faze of life where we are prioritising health and trying to ready our self for eventual owning a house, having children etc. I have noticed lately he has seemed restless and yesterday he told me over dinner that he is bored and depressed, that life is feeling repetitive. (Going to work, coming home, exercising, going to bed, repeat). In fairness his work situation isn’t great, he is an apprentice engineer for his family business with his father and brother who under pay him and treat him shitty. In a perfect world he would get another job but after already working outside and inside the family business, he feels as though leaving is not an option, at least until he finishes his apprenticeship which won’t be for another few years. He loves gaming, watching anime, football (but has injured his knee so cannot play). He used to play guitar in a band but seems to have lost interest over the years. He says gaming is too expensive and there isn’t anything out there he wants to watch. We live in a small town where there isn’t a lot to do. He seems to be just disenchanted with life. He doesn’t want to go on medication again and says it has nothing to do with me (although I still feel as though I have somehow failed him, a me thing not a him thing). How can I support him with this? I’m someone who constantly wishes to fix things and I get anxious that I cannot, my therapist has told me in the past that fixing it robs someone of the chance of growth. So how do I support him? What can I suggest? submitted by /u/CognitiveOlive
Originally posted by u/CognitiveOlive on r/AskMen