Over the past 2 years now my sex life with my wife has been below average. (Just to preface this with the fact that the sex isn’t my issue it’s more any form of physical contact and affection/appreciation, I am craving a connection with her) When we have had sex it’s been a means to an end not because she really wanted to more for things like getting pregnant or inducing labour. But recently it’s been extremely obvious. She doesn’t initiate any physical contact with me and when I hug her she barely hugs me back anymore she will often just press her chin into my shoulder and leave her arms hanging. She uses her toys whenever she gets the chance alone aswell which has been a kick to the guts because she has seemingly 0 interest in me. I have been making such an effort to show her love, affection and effort and it just seems to go unnoticed. I can’t keep doing this either. We have had a conversation about her showing affection and she said that she can’t initiate affection and ‘it’s not something she can do’ but she’s done it in the past so why not now? I even brought up the mention of therapy and was shut down very quickly because she didn’t like the idea, wouldn’t give me any reason and when I wanted to understand why just to see her perspective she told me to drop it and that she didn’t want to talk about it. So at this stage I am at a loss. I cannot carry this relationship forever and I won’t. I need to have some respect for myself and I’m not going to put myself through that; but I love her and I want her to come to the party and start making an effort. I guess you can’t force someone to love you if they don’t deep down. Any advice would be a godsend submitted by /u/Yacobcarseller98
Originally posted by u/Yacobcarseller98 on r/AskMen
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