So my girlfriend and I were talking about engagement rings and realized we see this pretty differently. I’ve always had this idea that I want to actually make her ring. Like learn how to do it, get the tools, practice, and physically craft it myself. actually make it. To me that feels insanely meaningful. The thought of giving my future wife something I built with my own hands just feel right. She sees it more practically. The ring is something she’ll wear every day, so she thinks it makes sense for us to go shopping and pick something she loves. She’s also totally okay with a temporary ring for the proposal if we can’t afford the “real” one right now that’s to her liking. For her, the commitment matters more than the object. And I agree with that in principle. The ring isn’t what makes the marriage. But I feel like once I introduced the idea of me making the ring, it kind of changes things. If the whole point is the symbolism of me putting time and effort into creating it, then using a placeholder almost feels like it defeats that purpose. Like the proposal becomes disconnected from the intention behind the ring. I’m now wondering if I’m being stubborn/selfish for wanting to prioritize making the ring? Or is it reasonable to see the handmade aspect as something worth waiting for? Would especially love to hear from people who’ve proposed or had strong feelings about the ring itself. submitted by /u/ImSyntax__
Originally posted by u/ImSyntax__ on r/AskMen
Me and my wife went in looking for a wedding ring. She wanted $500 tops. 4 places tried showing us $5000 minimum rings. We left, got a $175 ring from Pandora. She kept that ring for 5 years, and didnt lose it so upgraded to a ring worth a few grand. She just didnt want a ring that she may lose worth so much.
My ring was 300. I lost it, Recently. Going to replace it with a starwars one.