So i’m currently in a bit of a predicament surrounding another woman. My boyfriend and I are joined at the hip- fell in love fast, recently celebrated an anniversary, game together all the time, share many interests etc. We are a strong couple. I am generally not a mean / jealous person, but there is ONE woman, out of everyone in the world, that I just do not want my boyfriend to speak to- For context: (Tl:Dr she was incredibly malicious to me for months) • I worked with her, so did my boyfriend (it’s how we met) • She openly had feelings for him, played him about before I met him, and HATED me the second we started hanging out. • She was awful to me. (I’m generally a shy, non-conflict person and she went out of her way to bully me.) She talked badly of me to anyone who would listen, hid my resources at work to hinder my progress, told me to my face I looked bad, mocked my interests etc. It was so malicious that it was weird, like a mean girl from a movie or something, she was just so outwardly horrible. • She has a reputation for being a homeworker (openly drunkenly admitted on several occasions that she was sleeping with the manager who’s married with kids) and would consistently flirt with my boyfriend in front of me to try and irritate me. • We no longer all work together but we do see her frequently as this is a small town and she always goes to my boyfriends work Here’s the tricky part. In my ideal, woman-brained fantasy world, my boyfriend wouldn’t even LOOK at her, wouldn’t give her the time of day, wouldn’t ask her how she is, nothing. He’d maybe speak to her once to tell her he has no interest in talking with her because of how she treated me. And that’s it. However recently we did bump into her, she struck up small talk with him and he reciprocated to ‘be polite.’ I guess fair enough- my boyfriend is kind and extroverted. I just feel as though if the tables were turned and a guy treated my boyfriend awfully for months, tore down his mental health / self-esteem and flirted with me to piss him off- I wouldn’t even want to engage in small talk at all. So, if your partner absolutely hated a woman for similar reasons, would you feel it’s fair she expected you not to give them attention? (please take my post with a grain of salt. I’m a sensitive person just trying to be the best girlfriend possible) submitted by /u/kfcdippedinpepsi
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