I’m 25F, and I’ve had experiences with a few guys I was friends with that felt like real emotional intimacy — deep conversations, real vulnerability, the kind of closeness that made me feel truly seen. It didn’t feel purely physical in the moment; it felt like connection. But afterward if things developed sexually and was super intimate from their side and mine too, that closeness would vanish. No follow-up, no continuation of that emotional thread — just distance, like the “intimacy” was only ever a means to something physical, not something they actually valued for its own sake. I’m not looking for “some guys are like that, some aren’t.” I want to hear from men who’ve been on either side of this: was there a moment you realized what you thought was emotional closeness with someone was really just them wanting sex? Or, if you’ve been the one someone accused of that — what did it actually feel like from your side? What happened, and how did it change how you approach intimacy now? submitted by /u/dreamycoeur
Originally posted by u/dreamycoeur on r/AskMen