I’m 21F and my little brother is 14. We live in different states, and I’m really worried about him. He’s become incredibly insecure about his appearance and has been sharing a lot of hopeless content. I think he’s lonely, has very low self-esteem, and I’m scared he’s heading down the red-pill/black-pill/looksmaxing pipeline because he’s looking for answers. I occasionally give him girl advice & buy him cool clothing he likes. He also goes to a PWI as a minority which adds another level. He’s very introverted and keeps everything to himself. I suspect he may be autistic (I’m autistic myself), so I know how isolating it can be to struggle socially and feel like something is “wrong” with you. I had a really difficult adolescence and never had someone I could turn to. He does have me, but I can’t seem to get him to open up. He has even said he wishes he had an older brother, and I wish I could fill that role somehow. So I wanted to ask: Men: What did you need most at 14 that the adults in your life didn’t give you? If you struggled with self-esteem or loneliness, what actually helped you thrive? If you had an older sister, what could she have done to help? Older siblings: What role should I be playing here? I don’t want to lecture him or control him. I just want him to know he’s worthy, that he isn’t ugly, and that I will always be someone he can come to. I love him so much, and I’m terrified of watching him become someone who hates himself because he believes that’s all he’s worth. Please, help me. submitted by /u/barelytheremodel
Originally posted by u/barelytheremodel on r/AskMen
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