This is such a dumb post, but I’m genuinely at a crossroads. I’m constantly picking fights with my husband. I enjoy pushing his buttons and seeing his reaction. But it’s getting to the point where I feel like I’m pushing him away. He tells me that I’m not and he says he still loves me. But that I’m stressing him the fuck out. But I don’t know why I keep doing this. Our sex life is very vanilla and I’ve asked him to be more dominant. But not just in our sex life, in our day-to-day too. I enjoy him telling me what to do, what to eat, what to wear. I just thought I was very submissive. But today I learned a new term, “brat”. I’m going to be starting school in two months to further my career and because of this, I have almost been in a hurry to get this desire fulfilled. I’m going to be incredibly busy and I won’t have too much time to spend with my husband. I thought I was going to have more time. Because I’m in a hurry, I’ve been picking a lot more fights and I just realized it’s because he’s not taking action. He respects me too much. We had a long conversation today and I hope that I got through to him. I told him to stop being afraid of bossing me around and to just tell me how to please him. Not just with sex. He says that the constant fighting turns him off and doesn’t make him be in a good headspace to seek me out for sex. Do men get turned off by the constant fighting? How can I encourage him to be more dominant? He works 10 hour days and he’s so tired that most of the time we put off sex or going out. submitted by /u/Beckyy714
Originally posted by u/Beckyy714 on r/AskMen
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