I grew up fairly religious and spent a lot of time in church. With that, there was always lots of talk about premarital sex and how bad it was, how it needs to be avoided at all costs. Hearing that regularly as a kid definitely stuck with me. At the same time as this, I was being raised to respect women and treat them right. Outside of hearing the harsh views of the church on sex way too early, I think both those things made me into a good man who does his best to respect people. But I also think it taught me to have a fear of sex and that kind of intimacy. A fear that any kind of indulgence in that, even when in a long standing and consenting relationship, will make me a dirt bag and asshole. This has recently been causing friction in my marriage because my wife is wanting more sexual intimacy than I have been providing. But I’ve spent so long suppressing a lot of sexual desire and have this fear and worry that giving in will only cause issues. Has anyone been through a similar upbringing that has gotten past it? If so, how’d you do it and what helped change the way you look at sex in consenting relationships? submitted by /u/bigbacon8tor
Originally posted by u/bigbacon8tor on r/AskMen
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