Could really use some advice from the men here. 32F here. Met a guy (30M) recently and we’ve hung out 3-4 times now, and it’s been the kind of thing where you genuinely look forward to seeing them again and again - like we could easily be meeting up every day if life allowed it. Here’s the timing problem: I’m leaving for a holiday in a few days, and by the time I’m back, he’ll have already moved abroad for good. He has family here so I know he’ll visit but still, moving abroad. I’m seeing him tomorrow and the day after, and then that’s it before I go. I know 3-4 dates isn’t a lot to build a case on. But for context, I’ve only felt this specific “wait, this is different” feeling twice before in my life (at 22 and at 27), so when it shows up I tend to take it seriously - it doesn’t happen for me with just anyone. I don’t know how he feels about any of this or whether he’s even thought about it. Part of me wants to just ask him directly like, “hey, I know the timing is bad, but I like where this was going, is this a dead end for you or is there a version of this that continues?” Another part of me thinks maybe I should just let the last two good dates be two good dates and not make it heavier than it needs to be, especially with the move already locked in. I do want to say something before he leaves, because the alternative is wondering “what if” for who knows how long. Worst case he says he’s not interested in trying, and okay, that’s an answer too. So, should I bring it up, and if so, how? Is there a way to ask without putting pressure on the last two times we’ll see each other? Has anyone actually made something work (or at least gotten real clarity) by having this conversation before someone moved away? Genuinely just want outside perspective here, not just “follow your heart” type answers. TL;DR : Really clicked with a guy after only 3-4 dates, he’s moving abroad right as I leave for a trip, so I’ll only see him twice more before it’s unclear if we ever see each other again. Do I bring up how I feel / ask where his head’s at, or just let it end as a nice short thing? submitted by /u/HopeKitchen7805
Originally posted by u/HopeKitchen7805 on r/AskMen