I’m at a point where I’m fed up done with one night stands and casual sex. I’m 31 and I’ve just had a couple month fling with this girl younger than me which I didn’t really like at the start and gave it a go but ultimately not for me. As sad as it sounds that was the longest I have dated anyone in years. It was nice going out again with someone rather than a one night stand. I was enjoying getting to know someone as a whole rather than just them naked. I haven’t had a gf since I was 20-21 and I’ve dated a lot and had sex a lot in between but never anything serious, maybe 2/3 short term dating types but nothing crazy. Just recently I’ve really started to despise casual sex. And even this one was a bit more than casual sex by it was still always ever going to be short term and I kinda knew that. It was nice but yet again still a very empty feeling. I found myself having urges to do romantic gestures and saying things but then obviously not going through with it. Even something like that where you have a few dates and have casual sex that still is not worth it. Disclaimer: I am on 200mg of sertraline and so that may also be helping reduce my appetite for casual sex. But i’m a guy, probably accurately described as quite a horny one and I LOVE women and I’m a very generous partner but I just feel like I’d rather actually have no sex at all until it’s with the girl that I at least think has a chance of being something serious. That is hard to contemplate when I have failed for the last 10 years of my life that could mean being celibate for a decade or longer. I’m just wondering if there any other single guys toying with this dilemma or not? submitted by /u/biscottihole
Originally posted by u/biscottihole on r/AskMen