I’m very curious about the internal experience, here, not just what men actually do outwardly. Based on my own experience and what I know of other women, when we are hardcore crushing on someone, tiny interactions can start feeling like essential clues in a case we can become hell-bent on solving. BUT, then again in my personal observations & experience of women…there’s another aspect of the crushing for us that’s less anxious and more like appetite. It’s like having never tasted chocolate, then tasting it for the first time — I can imagine I would immediately be on the hunt for every form of chocolate known to man. Because now I know, and buddy, it is delicious. I’m targeting this question in r/AskMen because I already know several women who describe something similar, so I know it isn’t unique to me. I have no concept of what this experience (of being the crusher) is like from the MALE side. So …when you Guys have a serious crush, do you replay conversations, analyze tiny details, become unusually curious aobut them, remember ridiculous amounts of information, and quietly look for more opportunities to hear from them, learn about them, or just be in their general vicinity? (Anyone who has met a preteen girl will recognize the speed breathlessness with which that sentence should be read.) IMPORTANTLY: Can all of that be happening internally for guys while you (a-holes) look relatively normal and unbothered from the outside? NOT TALKING ABOUT stalking, invading privacy, or ignoring boundaries, to be clear. I mean ordinary, slightly ridiculous, “why has this person suddenly occupied 43% of my available RAM??” crush-brain. I am fascinated and simply had to ask. 😂 submitted by /u/BetaTestMom
Originally posted by u/BetaTestMom on r/AskMen