Hi everyone, basically I am 25, nearing the end of an engineering degree, really struggling though, really slow, failed 3 years in college. When I was born my dad left, and basically I first started talking to him at 15, with the worst circumstances in my life I will not get into, infidelity and a terminal illness in the family are the broad strokes of it. I am reflecting on my life, and I have noticed with almost everything in my life, I had to do it on my own, I had no guidance. Mom helped a lot and was right a lot of the times, but there are so many things she has not experienced that my dad has experienced and knows about, if that makes sense. He is mostly dismissive to direct problems in my life, I usually had to initiate any rekindling with him and now the relationship is pretty stale and I do not respect him like I respect my mom. I do like my dad with his taste in music and culture, but anything in practicality he is simply not there. The most he can say is “I can’t” or “I got no cash right now”, and that is not really what is needed, he is needed more as a reliant figure… I have noticed some of my bros and their relationships with their dad, its really like lion king, like a dog pack, really rough on the edges, but there is a lot of respect there and there is a hierarchy and toughness that is gained. That was always alien to me, but I kind of like that, even though I do not have a male figure, and never had. Only glimpses of a figure that dissappointed me. I am also in a crisis since I still don’t have a drivers license, I lack bravery in some places in life, I am socially intelligent, but lack using it for networking or any connections, also I dislike it. I feel pretty late and a failure… The question is have you felt like this if you were in a similar situation, I kind of feel like the walls are always closing in and I am about to lose it, mentally and in general about things around me? Thank you all in advance and good luck in this weird thing called life!!! submitted by /u/Obvious_Seesaw7837
Originally posted by u/Obvious_Seesaw7837 on r/AskMen
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