I (m21) have chosen to remain single forever. I do not want to be in a relationship with anyone. The problem is I don’t have a template for lifelong singlehood. For most of my life most of my plans and visualizations of them (that i am now getting rid off) revolved around being a man who could eventually have and sustain his own family. Now that I have done away with those I realize that the templates I had for my future are ill fitting for this new life I’ve chosen. So i recalibrated. After recalibrating, all I have is, get a high income, save and invest, be generous, be industrious, be respectful and kind, have a good reputation, develop hobbies now only for the sole purpose of alleviating boredom, ensure hobbies are challenging to slow cognitive decline without being unnecessarily time consuming, travel, get a dog or two. That’s it. Feels like it’s missing something or a few more things but I don’t know what. Could be doing fun stuff with friends but I don’t have high expectations there so I conveniently left it out. I’m not sure what else I’m missing or if my list is just fine because society hardly presents a reliable script for people who live their lives unpartnered. For those of you who also do not wish to be in relationships and are thriving, what are some tips and pointers? I’m open to advice from others who are partnered as well. Thank you. submitted by /u/Dizzy-Ad-4857
Originally posted by u/Dizzy-Ad-4857 on r/AskMen