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I am 27(F). I have been in a relationship with someone I have known since the age of 17. We lost contact and reconnected again 2 years ago, which is when our relationship started. He is on the run in his home country, and will be arrested if he ever returns to the country I reside in. I have occasionally gone to visit him, as we are both from the same country. Due to his background, he has connections in both countries- our home country and the country I currently reside in. Throughout this relationship I really tried my best. I can confidently say I have been a great girlfriend, and he would agree. However, I absolutely cannot continue this relationship any longer. He has disrespected me one too many times for me to ever justify leaving my life here to move abroad with him and somewhat go against my family as they do not approve of him, which is completely understandable. He is mentally unstable, and shows signs of schizophrenia. He does not think like a normal, sane person would. He has immense trust issues and a disgusting foul mouth. He has never physically assaulted me but the mental abuse has been intense. Some examples of things he has done: I went on holiday with my mother to our home country and did not tell him the name of the hotel as I did not want him to turn up. He paid a police officer to find out my location and turned up. Causing me and my mum to feel incredibly uncomfortable and on edge. When on holiday with him, his friend and my friend, I caught him speaking to multiple women online and shouted at me in front of everyone, calling me very horrible, degrading words. On the same holiday, he used shouted degrading words to me and my friend for taking too long in the toilet. There is so much more. Every time I have tried to leave, he has blackmailed me with my private photos, he has contacted my sibling and mother via Instagram begging them to get me to reach out to him and speaking in a threatening tone to my brother. Thankfully, I am logged into my mums Instagram & can block him. But my brother has received disturbing messages from him every time. He has threatened to burn my house down, one time going so far as telling me to go home ASAP when I was outside as there were two men burning my house. He has blackmailed me with my private photos. Every time I block him, he creates a new number to reach out to me. I have since got a new number, which he does not have and speak to him via WhatsApp using my old number so he does NOT get my new one. I could just block all his numbers and ignore him, but he will just do something insane to get me to reply to him. It’s a never ending cycle. I feel as though I am being mentally raped every single day. I have told him I do not want this anymore, he just does not want to accept it. I speak to him everyday & he behaves as though we are in a happy relationship. I am not here because of my feelings, I am here because every time I have tried to leave, he has done something to get me to come back. I feel like a prisoner. When he is calm, he can be incredibly sweet. Which makes this an even bigger mind fuck. He has stolen two years of my life. I want a family, children and someone who respects me. I don’t know what to do anymore, and I have even considered taking my own life at times to get away from this. I would not do that - but that seems like the only choice I have. I have not been able to share the extent of his abuse with my family as I feel ashamed and most importantly, I don’t want to stress them out at their age. This man has the power to do the things he says, and I cannot go to the police as they will not do anything due to the fact he lives abroad. And if I go to the police in our home country, he will just pay them off. How can I make him leave me alone? I need this to be his idea. Thats the only way. submitted by /u/LegitimateDrawing549

Originally posted by u/LegitimateDrawing549 on r/AskMen