I’m posting this because I’ve noticed a pattern in my dating life that I genuinely don’t understand, and I’m curious whether men can shed some light on it. I’m a Mauritian woman of African and Indian descent in her mid 20s. I have dark skin, long black curly hair, I mention this because I don’t know whether my appearance is relevant to what I’m asking, or whether I’m overthinking it. What confuses me is that I’ve repeatedly been approached by men who, after getting to know them, turn out to come from significantly more privileged backgrounds than I do. The strange part is that I’m not meeting these men in particularly wealthy environments. I’ve met them at a normal budget gym, in the park while reading, etc. I’m not deliberately putting myself in affluent social circles or looking for wealthy men. For example, I recently had a really good conversation with a man and we exchanged social media. Only afterwards did I discover that he’d gone to Eton and then Oxford. Obviously that’s an impressive educational background, but it also made me realise just how different our upbringings probably are and conscious that I won’t fit into his circle. I grew up in the bottom end of the income distribution in the UK. My family had very little money. I actually remember skipping lunch at school because, as a child, I somehow convinced myself that not eating would help my mum financially. Then there’s another man who approached me previously. He wasn’t from an old money background, but his family had clearly done very well. His father was a successful, decorated lawyer, with several houses across Hampshire and Wiltshire and he’d been privately educated from preschool onwards. His family were Irish immigrants to London, so again, not the stereotypical aristocratic background, but still a very privileged upbringing compared with mine. I’m not trying to attract rich men or brag. I’m genuinely trying to understand whether there’s a pattern, and I’d especially appreciate honest answers from men who grew up wealthy, privately educated, or socially privileged. submitted by /u/Master_Click_9837
Originally posted by u/Master_Click_9837 on r/AskMen