I (32) had an abusive friend Emily(30) for a few years. She constantly belittled me, she mocked me. And I mean I can take jokes but it was a bit too much. Was she an evil person to her soul? No, but she broke me down. Then gaslit me about everything. And I mean it was “What are you talking about? That never happened.” Type stuff. Emily married my husband’s, Brad 35, best friend. After finding out Emily wasn’t the only abusive one in their marriage, she started clinging to Brad. Brad was going thru his own stuff with his best friend, so Emily and Brad bonded. Is it romantic? No? I think it’s ego for her (she likes having my husband as a friend, but not her husband, and against me)… it’s manipulative. And my husband thinks if they’re not friends, she has nobody. But that’s her choice. But it’s killed my trust with my husband. I don’t want to deal with him at all when I’m reminded. How do you become a safe space for somebody that hurt your wife? Before this, he didn’t care. When I ended the friendship. He told me it was a good thing because he watched for YEARSSS of the back and forth. I’ve tried to explain it a million times, a million ways. He doesn’t care. And I’ve tried not to care but I do. What else can I say or do? submitted by /u/FaithlessnessTight72
Originally posted by u/FaithlessnessTight72 on r/AskMen