Hi guys! So to start off I’m 24F, and I’m genuinely curious about this from a guy’s perspective because I’ve noticed a pattern in my own life and I want to know if other girls experience this with men too. Have you ever started developing feelings for a girl because the two of you had a very playful dynamic? I mean things like teasing each other, messing with each other’s stuff, joking around constantly, playful arguing, physical play/friendly roughhousing, etc. I’m NOT talking about a girl deliberately trying to flirt or seduce you. I mean when the dynamic just naturally develops and you two basically become playmates. For example, I once had a guy in my class back in highschool where we barely even talked normally, but we constantly messed with each other. I’d scribble in his books, he’d scribble in mine, we’d steal each other’s stuff and argue over it, and eventually the whole dynamic became very playful/physical. A few weeks later he asked me to be his girlfriend. I had another guy too I used to play-fight with outside of class, we’d tackle each other, chase each other around, kick each other, etc. and eventually I caught him staring at me in a VERY different way. He never actually made a move, though. So now I’m wondering: What actually happens in your head when you develop this kind of dynamic and it ends up with you having feelings for her? 😭 Does the playful attention make you more attracted to her over time? Does feeling like she specifically enjoys your company make a difference? Does physical play/roughhousing increase the tension? Or is it more that you already find her attractive, and the playfulness simply gives you more opportunities to notice that attraction? And if you HAVE developed a crush this way, did you realize it gradually or was there ever a specific “oh shit, I like her” moment? Like pls explain to me why this works 😭 submitted by /u/tennysplayer2329
Originally posted by u/tennysplayer2329 on r/AskMen