So we know that communication is important but sometimes even doing that can be hard if you don’t have the words to describe what you’d like. Recently, my bf told me he’d like to do sexual things like it was normal. By the way he described it it sounded like he was wanting to try us being free-use. But that wasn’t it even tho we did try that for awhile. What he really meant things that are usually sexual, but casually. I still didn’t quite what he meant so I guess I needed a demonstration or an example. He suggested for us to watch a movie to do this. We did and a little into the movie he just non-chalantly went underneath my shirt and started playing my breast and nipple. I flirted with him and asked “didn’t you wanna watch the movie?” He then explained this is what he meant. Doing something like this without sexual intent. Admittedly, I kinda felt pretty stupid. My hand needed to be held through that. I think I was overthinking it too. He didn’t intend to but I jumped his bones anyways. Later on I realized the touches made me feel safe somehow. Like he wasn’t doing this as a ploy. And plenty of times where he and I have touched each other this way and sex didn’t follow. So this little thing I feel improved my relationship in a way I didn’t expect. And after sex he touches me in ways he hadnt before. submitted by /u/Marosaline
Originally posted by u/Marosaline on r/AskMen