Hey all 27 m here. Been dating my girl for 4 years. I love her Deeply and she loves me. There is a problem tho. Ever since we started dating she has had a very low sex drive, like we only are intimate once a month or less. this is compounded by me being a physical touch person we’re as she is acts of service. Throughout our relationship multiple times she has said she wants to be more intimate, enjoys sex but doesent know why she doesent want it more often, wants to do it more etc. but it never ends up happening. I don’t want to rely on masturbating because I find it hollow, I personally need to connect with someone physically. I don’t blame her but i don’t want us to live this way for the rest of our lives. We had a conversation about it the other day and explained our needs, how we enjoy sex, what sex means to us, etc. she said she want to try have sex once a week. (Initially this sounded like it was headed in the right direction). however when we were talking about what sex means to us, she said she wants us to have a time and day each week to do it, it needs to fit around other routines in our lives, won’t happen on week nights etc. I guess from my point of view it sounded kind of like it was more like a chore to her. I know that’s not nessacerily the case but it kind of hurt. I’m trying to see this from her side and how it’s different for everyone. But now she expects us to do it on this time and day but I’m not actually desiring it or horny for it. I in a way got what I wanted but now I am not horny. I don’t know what to do. My mood for it is completely off now submitted by /u/Plenty_Appearance677
Originally posted by u/Plenty_Appearance677 on r/AskMen
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