I’m not even sure if this is the right subreddit to ask this question but I don’t know where else to post this. I (21M) am scared of “doing it” with my girlfriend(19F). For context, we’ve been dating going on 3 years now, and for those of you who are curious, we met through her older sister who I was also friends with. We became friends through her sister, and begun to hang out and chat regularly for over a year, before we even started talking about dating. At first, she didn’t want to be intimate like that for personal reasons and I respected that. Because to me it wasn’t really about that to begin with, I was just happy to be with her and in her company. So to me, it was never really an issue, though I admit I thought about it here and there, and there have been moments where we had to catch ourselves. Now, she’s ready. Emotionally, physically, and whatever else, she wants to do it. And I’m freaked out and don’t know what to do. Because it was something I had wanted to do, but now that it’s on the table… Like I have all these questions and doubts. Am I big enough? Will I be able to please her? It’s both of our first times, so I don’t want the experience to be a miserable one for either of us, and the closer we are to coming to that point of doing it, the more nervous I get, and the more nervous I get, the less the soldier wants to stand at attention. I’ve already made several excuses when we’ve gotten to that point and while disappointed, she hasn’t pushed the issue. But I feel like we’re going to get to a point where it will become an issue in the future. And it’s not something I want to bring up in the circles I’m in, so I wanted to ask for advice from strangers. What can I do to get over this fear and is there anything I can do that’ll help the soldier stand at attention despite any longer fear or anxiety? submitted by /u/ImportantLifeguard41
Originally posted by u/ImportantLifeguard41 on r/AskMen
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