21M, Lost My Mom, Doing a Degree I Never Wanted, Secretly Working on My Dream. How Do I Deal With My Dad Calling Me Lazy I am M21. I am a student doing my Bsc Nursing…why? coz my father decided that. Basically my father chooses everything for me and that’s the reason why I don’t talk to him or tell him about my life anymore. We live in same house but I am not interested in talking to him. Everytime I used to tell him about my dreams or something that I wanna do…he is like “no that’s wrong and that you are getting influenced by your friends”… whether it was not choosing biology in 11th or not pursuing nursing as a career. Everytime. “Your friends are corrupting you mind”…Even now for what exam I have to give after my degree . So I stopped explaining myself and talking to him. I lost my mother 4 yrs back. And it changed me. My father and I grew more distant. Now let me tell you the problem. I live in my room. And I am very straight about one thing that I don’t wanna do nursing. That is not my dream. I have my own dreams. So I am doing a part time job or editing and social media analyst. And Me and my best friend have started our own marketing venture…We have 2 clients rn and 5 potential clients…and I am very sure we will close them all. I wake up at 6 am in the morning…so my job work…then from 8-4 i have college…in college too I am working…I come back home…and again start working for my job…some meets with clients and all in the evening and then I help father in preparing dinner and Then we start working on startup from 9pm and I work till 2am in night. This is my routine and my father knows nothing about this. But that’s the problem…coz he wants me to take responsiblities of household work/…Just now we fought and he was like “You are just lazy…you don’t do anything…you wake up late and just get ready and leave for college…you just watch movies and are on internet and just sleep other then college…and I want you to do these household work and prepare dinner…” and This fight has happened before too…and willl keep happening…I can’t tell him what I am doing because he won’t get. I will tell him once my startup gets to a 1Lakh profit…but right now its not the time. But I want you guys to help me and advice me like how do I handle this?..I don’t have time to do household works…sometimes I come from college and I don’t even have time to change my dress and I have to get to the work…I sleep hardly 3-4hrs a day and I am always on a stress mode so earlier I used to avoid fights but now I just start fighting with my father and I don’t even realise. I don’t know what to do…he will keep thinking I am lazy and just watch movies (which I love the most but idk when was the last time I watched a movie)…So how do I tackle this situation? Help me out. submitted by /u/TemporaryPineapple73
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