Hey guys, sorry for the big text, this is mostly just explaining the details of what bothers me most since I was a kid. My family is really small (4 people, counting me) and I’m the only guy. We used to be 6 (grandfather and uncle) but they didn’t live with us, only visited. My grandpa died and uncle is no longer with my aunt. Anyways, I’m 18 and I moved a while ago, so I don’t have any friends in this city. Since I was a kid, I always felt lonely but thought it was because I was shy. Turns out it’s because I felt very out of place and the biggest “father figure” I had was my uncle, but he’s no longer around, unfortunately. The good side is that I always had an easy time understanding girls and could genuinely befriend them, also being able to improve my feminine side. I honestly don’t know if living with WOMEN is the problem here or if THESE SPECIFIC WOMEN in my family are the problem… I love them all, but I’ve felt like an outcast since I was around 9-10 and it’s growing more and more. Our interests don’t match (but that’s mostly because of age difference, they’re all 40+), they can’t help me with specific guy problems, they are very emotional (and I wish I was a bit more too, but I simply can’t and it actually made me become a bit harsh and incapable of understanding my emotions) and some other things, including that loneliness/outcast-feeling I mentioned earlier. I feel like I always have to figure stuff out on my own and solve everyone’s problems, which is part of the family life, but I often feel impotent and like I can’t ask for help, because that’d make me weak or lazy, since they use that “man of the house” card on me. I also notice that they always sugarcoat things when it comes to me (especially my mother), like “boys will be boys”, and it makes me feel infantilized or guilty when I have to face my mistakes. My aunt HATES that and gets mad AT ME because my mother babies me, and yes, I’ve asked mom to stop for years now, and no mather how much I show her that I’m a grown-up, she will not stop. I’m sorry if I’m stereotyping anything, that’s just what I feel like the “problems” could be, so if anyone could help me I’d be so grateful. Thank you, guys! submitted by /u/xn0wnn
Originally posted by u/xn0wnn on r/AskMen
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