I’m asking this genuinely because I want to learn. In the past, I’ve noticed I may have been drawn to emotionally unavailable or wounded men. I’m reflecting on that pattern and trying to understand what I might have done, tolerated, or even unintentionally projected that contributed to it. For the men here who consider themselves emotionally stable, secure, and serious about long-term partnership: How did you choose your partner? What made you feel safe committing? What traits attract you beyond initial physical attraction? And what behaviors tend to push you away, even if the woman is attractive or interesting? I’m not asking for validation, I’m trying to unlearn patterns that might attract the wrong type and understand what actually draws healthy men in. Would appreciate honest answers. submitted by /u/Vivid_Perspective_87
Originally posted by u/Vivid_Perspective_87 on r/AskMen