I know the title sounds a bit dramatic, but I’m asking in good faith and I’m not trying to bash men or start a gender war. I also know women come back too. I’m not pretending this is a male only thing. I think what I’m curious about is the version that happens after the texting phase or early dating, when there wasn’t even a big relationship investment, and still someone pops back up months later like nothing happened. I’ve seen this a lot in my own life and with women around me. It can be anything from a brief fling to something longer. A guy chooses someone else or ends it, and then months later he messages again. Sometimes it’s even while he’s still with that person. I’ve refused every single time, whether they were single or not. For me, if you left, you left. No hate, I just don’t want to be a second option or the “retry” after it didn’t work out elsewhere. For context, I’m pretty slow to sleep with someone unless I genuinely like them and see relationship potential. If a guy wants things to move faster and moves on, that’s honestly fine. I actually see it as a compatibility filter. What I don’t understand is why some of them still come back later anyway. (I know this could be a bit contradictory for people who read my Reddit posts and see the hook up post, it was a much needed rebound and I haven’t had sex since haha). but I’m genuinely curious, especially from the men here but also anyone can answer. If you’ve ever come back months later, what was going on in your head. Was it regret. Was it loneliness or boredom. Was it ego or validation, like checking if you still could. Was it because the other option didn’t work out. Was it because it felt unfinished, especially if nothing physical happened. Or was it something else entirely. And when you reached out, what were you actually hoping would happen. submitted by /u/Willing_Werewolf_325
Originally posted by u/Willing_Werewolf_325 on r/AskMen