I’ve been confused about this all the time ever since I was a teenager. And recently there was this situation that caused confusion for me as well: I (23F) just got staffed on a project with my male colleage (25M) from a different region for 3 weeks. This specific project requires travelling together & be on-site in a hotel for colocation the whole time. FY context, he’s one of the most, if not the most, extraverted person I’ve ever met with — friendly & talkative with everyone basically. But I lowkey felt like he was a bit beyond friendly & flirting with me. Some occasions include:
- We gossiped over a bunch of personal things (incl. his dating life & even past hook-ups despite just knowing each other for 1w at that time)
- We hung out on 1:1 dinners a LOT (objectively, the other associate on the team was a bit more reserve)
- One time we did dinner takeaways & went back to his hotel room to have dinner & talked till 3AM as all the “neutral” places in the hotel were closed
- We once went to a bar after a 1:1 dinner on Sat where he placed his arm behind my back on the sofa the whole time, angled towards me and sometimes even put his head on my shoulder for a brief second when laughing
- He sometimes dropped lines like “let’s just pretend we have a kid” when we were picking out a farewell gift for an intern on the team I was quite confused whether it’s just him, or me overthinking the situation, or even cultural differences in terms of friendliness (I’m from Asia, while he’s based in France) — no offense/stereotypes though. submitted by /u/Beautiful_Citron_297
Originally posted by u/Beautiful_Citron_297 on r/AskMen
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