i have already asked by boyfriend if there is anything i can do and he won’t tell me, so i come here for hope my boyfriend m19 recently told me f18 that about 2 days ago having sex with me feels like a chore and it really hurt my feelings quite a bit. the conversation started when i decided to be honest with him by telling him that i haven’t been orgasming or really ever had a proper orgasm to which he retaliated by telling me that having sex with me feels like a chore, i ask for it too much and that i’m a “sex maniac” as he called it. 🙁 i don’t really know what things mean or why he said it and i’m a bit confused of what he actually meant by it. what did he mean, what was he trying to say? he ended up apologising to me several hours later as i was really hurt by it and upset, he said that he didn’t actually mean what he said. he said that he was just in a shitty mood and was overthinking about something that happened earlier between us that morning as i was on my phone texting my friend which he got a bit paranoid so he started thinking maybe i told her about our sex life problems. after he apologised he started initiating sex with me again as in the lead up to what he said he had sort of stopped asking for it all together. i love and trust him hut if i’m honest i don’t really believe that he didn’t mean it because if he didn’t mean it then how did that manage to come out his mouth? what can i do better / how can i make him feel better? how can i make our sex a bit more interesting and spice it up for him? how can i make him enjoy the sex more? how can i make it so that he enjoys it enough that he might ask more? how can i actually make myself have an orgasm? because he really isn’t doing it for me, i can’t have one. do anyone think that he actually meant what he said or at least meant it in the moment of when he said it and what did he mean by it / was he trying to get across? submitted by /u/SecretWay6281
Originally posted by u/SecretWay6281 on r/AskMen