Disclaimer: I’m not hating on women or viewing them as a monolith but I am curious if anyone has experienced something similar. Society teaches girls to care about social status and their image. I feel this leads to women growing up and not being comfortable with being in the wrong/ being seen as a bad person. I’ve notice that they’re much more likely to take accountability if I frame the situation in a way where she feels that I view her separate from her actions, and that what she did isn’t an accurate reflection of her character. A lot of times they’ll even apologize profusely and feel super bad about whatever the issue was. However, if I come with a more blunt/direct approach (especially in an agitated tone) they view it as an attack on their character and immediately get defensive to protective themselves from feeling like they’re a bad person, regardless of how absurd their reasoning is. So I think it has less to do with them not being able to take accountability and more to do so with viewing conflict/mistakes as an attack on their character. Has this been true in your own experiences or do you all think it’s caused by something else? submitted by /u/MrSaucy47
Originally posted by u/MrSaucy47 on r/AskMen