In two months, I’ll be 29, and I’ve never had a girlfriend. It’s making me extremely depressed. I’m 6’1", fit, and dress well. Women stare at me all the time. I’ve kissed 50+ women and had sex with around seven. There have also been multiple occasions when I could have had sex, but because of my nervousness, my body just wouldn’t cooperate. Almost all of these experiences happened when I was drunk and/or under the influence of drugs, usually in nightlife settings. I’ve dated a few women throughout my twenties, but these situations usually only lasted a few weeks or months. Some women I wasn’t interested in and rejected myself, but over the past 10 years, there have also been women who were interested in me. Because of my extreme fear of rejection and feeling like I’m not good enough, I acted extremely weird and needy and ended up rejecting myself before anything could happen. People genuinely can’t believe I’ve never been in a relationship because I’m social around men and become really social and extroverted when I’m drunk. I can talk to just about anyone, and people have told me this countless times. I have an extreme reaction to rejection because of my childhood, and I struggle with social anxiety. I’ve been to therapy, and things are slowly getting better, but the fact that I’ve never had a relationship keeps me up at night. Everyone I knew, even people from high school who were extremely socially anxious, awkward, or had zero friends, eventually got into a relationship. I was the popular kid, the one who got attention from others. I just can’t understand how I ended up in this situation. It makes me feel like something is fundamentally wrong with me. This genuinely makes me so depressed, and I lie awake at night thinking about it often. submitted by /u/mstheze7
Originally posted by u/mstheze7 on r/AskMen