I’m in 30s, live in Germany, and come from Southern Europe. I have dark, slightly fluffy hair, fair skin, short black beard, and a somewhat fuller build. Sometimes being mistaken for being from Middle East. I’ve noticed a strange pattern: on days when I just get out of bed, quickly comb my hair, and don’t groom my beard much, women seem more approachable toward me. I notice more eye contact, smiles, and sometimes even small talk. However, when I shower, style my hair properly, and make an effort to look well-groomed, I sometimes get the opposite impression with girls distancing. Could a more casual, slightly messy appearance make someone seem more approachable? Or am I actually doing something wrong with my grooming or hairstyling that makes me look less attractive or approachable when I put in more effort? Has anyone else experienced something similar? What do you think could explain this? submitted by /u/Unlucky_Reindeer980
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