My wife (31) and I (30) have been married for just over a year and this is something that comes up relatively frequently. She says she needs more help around the house but I feel I do a lot already. For example, every morning wake up at least an hour before she does because she claims I get in her way if we wake up at the same time, put away the clean dishes from the dishwasher, clean and transfer any midnight snack dishes from the sink into the dishwasher, boil water for coffee, prepare the kids’ school stuff (minus lunch and doing their hair, she does that), take them to school, and then drive an hour to work. Then in the evening, I drive an hour back to the house, clean dishes left in the sink from whenever the kids get home, clean the kitchen up after she cooks, take out the trash, load the dishwasher with any dinner dishes, sweep the floor, store any leftovers in the fridge. While I don’t do laundry because she got on my case that I was somehow doing it wrong when I moved in and tried to help out, I do put our clothes away while she puts away the kids’ clothes. On cleaning days she cleans the bathrooms and mops while I clean the kitchen, sweep the floors, and vacuum the carpets. I feel that I do a lot that doesn’t get recognized so how do you all deal with being told you don’t help out when you actually do?? submitted by /u/Successful-Leek2212
Originally posted by u/Successful-Leek2212 on r/AskMen