I (25M) am nomadic and move around very often, however I usually set up a homebase around a certain city or national park for a few months at a time to save up and plan out trips. I don’t feel ready to have a long term relationship, but I still like to talk to women, be flirty or have flings and encounters if she is open to it. Something that frustrates me a lot is just how much competition you run into when trying to get into dating. It seems like every attractive woman practically has a halo of guys swarming around her, and trying to get her to notice you is at times very difficult. Last summer I was staying in a small mountain town, and I met this beautiful girl who was about my age, alternative, nomadic, very adventurous, and intelligent. She checked off every box for me and I tried getting to know her, hoping I could sooner or later ask her out on a date. But she got so much male attention that I could never even poke my head in. I got her number and tried to ask her to go hiking with me on the few days that our schedules lined up, but she was pretty much always doing the same thing with another guy friend of hers. I would see her at the bar in town, but she was always talking to another guy at the bar, often a much older man. Even in the event that I could get to talk to her, there would often be another guy she knows around who would butt into the conversation. Sometimes it felt impossible to get any 1 on 1 time. She was an extreme example, but I have noticed this kind of behavior a lot. I’ve had guys try to squeeze me out of conversations if we both liked a girl in the group. Interrupt me, belittle me all that. I’ve seen guys get so heated that you could tell that they were just barely containing their cool around me when a girl is involved. Sometimes I’ll meet other guys in these places and we’ll start talking. He’ll say “Hey, don’t you think ( girl that you like ) is cute?” My heart always sinks when I hear this. I think “Great! What now? Should I give up this girl so we can hang out? Or are we gonna start fighting for her attention?” It is honestly pretty exhausting. Do you guys ever feel the same way? Do you guys have any similar experiences or am I just particularly unlucky? What do you guys do about it? Do you think that it is even worth pursuing a girl if she is constantly getting swarmed by every guy in town? submitted by /u/Significant-Factor-9
Originally posted by u/Significant-Factor-9 on r/AskMen
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