For context my Dad just got married to his wife 6 months ago. A month later she was diagnosed with an aggressive brain tumor and had brain surgery to remove it. Now she is on medication she will have to take the rest of her life or the cancer would come back and she will not make it. The pills are 4,000a month! Like crazy expensive. My dad makes 6 figures a year and she has her career but has been out of work for a few months to recover, she wasn’t even able to drive so he convinced her to sell her car. And to be clear, he has never had to pay for her treatment, she paid for the whole wedding, she has even helped him with bills. But she in no way has ever used him for money, she is well off on her own. So the problem is now he is kicking her out, is obviously going through some mental health issue but my stepmom is blindsided, they had a great relationship. I won’t get into all the crazy details but in the end he told her to her face that he feels used because he thought that once they got married she would start helping him pay the mortgage but, in his exact words, “then you had to go and get cancer!!” How would you handle this situation if you were in his shoes? Would you end things because you expect 50/50 at all times or would you have patience with your partner and pick up the slack until they can get back up on their feet? I don’t understand how he can throw away such a good thing over momentary debt. He has said to me that he feels she isn’t interested in building a life with him, (she’s literally focused on survival rn but ok) but from what I see it just sounds like he’s mad and just expected marrying her would make him richer. submitted by /u/Unhappy_Turnover_956
Originally posted by u/Unhappy_Turnover_956 on r/AskMen