I’ve been dating a guy who has a strong butt fetish. Early on, I made it clear that I don’t like anal at all I’ve tried it before and it’s just not for me. He accepted that and agreed we would only do some light butt play that I’m comfortable with, which I don’t mind since it’s not painful and he enjoys it. He also has some ED issues and sometimes struggles to finish, and he told me that butt-related stimulation helps him climax faster. But told me he is ok that i don’t want to do anal and he can live with that. However, recently I checked his computer and noticed that almost all the porn he watches revolves around anal and butt-focused content. Now I can’t shake the feeling that maybe he’s just settling in this relationship because it’s what’s available to him right now while a big part of his sexual desire centers around something I fundamentally don’t want to do. It makes me wonder whether this relationship is sustainable long-term, or if eventually he’ll feel unsatisfied and look elsewhere to fulfill that fantasy since I can’t meet that need. Am I overthinking this, or is this actually a valid concern about long-term compatibility? TL;DR: Dating a guy with a strong anal/butt fetish. I’ve clearly said anal is off the table and he agreed, but his porn preferences are heavily focused on it. Now I’m worried he’s settling and may eventually feel sexually unfulfilled. Is this overthinking or a real compatibility issue? submitted by /u/Gullible_Sell2035
Originally posted by u/Gullible_Sell2035 on r/AskMen