TLDR Improved my life after being called immature but still struggle with shame and avoidance looking for advice from men who rebuilt confidence I am 25. Last year my partner criticized my maturity and independence. At the time I had just moved out for the first time and was behind on some basic adult skills like cooking and managing money. I had no idea these are relationship breaking issues. She ended the things in dynamics that really damaged me, she started missing her ex and left me in a comparing dynamics telling behind my back how I’m childish and he was a real man that moved her emotionally, laughed at me with her friends too Since then I have improved those areas significantly. I handle my responsibilities and function independently. The problem is internal. Even now certain words or situations trigger shame. Like manchild, mothering, cooking, savings, When that happens I tend to withdraw oversleep and become resentful. I know objectively I have grown but emotionally I still react to that old criticism. I tlet go off abuse too in that relationship like I was told I deserve a slap once, so I think I had emotional immaturity as well, heavily For men who have rebuilt themselves after harsh criticism What actually helped you regain solid confidence How did you stop reacting to old labels in your head What shifted things from improvement on paper to real internal confidence submitted by /u/ConsistentSquare5650
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