I met a girl in Korea through Tinder, and we ended up spending three and a half weeks together while I was there. During that time, things moved pretty fast. We had a lot of deep conversations about life, values, and what we both want long term. By the end of my trip, we decided we wanted to get married. It’s now been five months since I left Korea, and I’ve been feeling increasingly conflicted. There are a few things that are making me hesitate. She’s 35 (turning 36 this year) and I’m 31. She’s 5’9” and I’m 5’6”. She’s also more of a tomboy in terms of personality and style. None of these things are inherently bad, but I’m struggling with whether I can genuinely look past them long term. What makes it harder is that in most other areas, she ticks every box I would want in a wife. Our values align, we want the same things out of life, and I truly believe she would be an amazing wife, mother, and life partner. The issue is that I’ve had these doubts multiple times since leaving Korea. I’ve tried to swallow them and push forward because I know how good she is “on paper.” But no matter how much I rationalise it, I can’t seem to fully get over those concerns. I can’t tell if I’m sabotaging something good over superficial things, or if these recurring doubts are my gut telling me something important. Has anyone been in a similar situation where someone was objectively right for you, but something just didn’t sit fully right? How did you handle it? submitted by /u/Apprehensive-Path458
Originally posted by u/Apprehensive-Path458 on r/AskMen
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