I’m trying to understand a workplace dynamic from a male perspective. In a small studio environment (around 25–26 employees), if a male employee who is a few years older repeatedly offers to drop a female intern home because they live in the same direction — and when commuting together, makes an effort to initiate conversation and maintain a respectful, comfortable environment — how is this behavior usually intended? Additional context for the scenario: • He is a full-time employee, while she is an intern. • He is about 2–3 years older. • He is not part of her friend group but initiates conversations fairly often. • He does not appear to be someone who offers help to everyone. • During a shared ride with another colleague, he jokingly asked his friend to use clean language, which made the environment feel more respectful. • The workplace is small, so interactions are more noticeable. • He does not follow her on Instagram. • Viewing his public social media raised some uncertainty because some posts appeared misogynistic, vulgar, or body-shaming, which contrasts with his respectful in-person behavior. • The intern does not consider herself very attractive and is currently overweight, so she tends to assume men would not be romantically interested in her, which may influence how she interprets attention. In a situation like this, would the behavior more commonly indicate:
- simple helpfulness and convenience 2. friendliness or rapport-building with a junior colleague 3. an effort to make a new coworker feel comfortable 4. personal interest 5. possible romantic interest Also, how much do hierarchy (employee vs intern), workplace comfort, and professional boundaries typically influence how men behave in such situations? Looking for general perspectives rather than judgments about any individual. submitted by /u/AdVarious4063
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