My father had this bad trait. Whenever something he doesn’t like happens or is said to him (from a close one) he tends to shutdown, he stays in his corner of the house for weeks sometimes, leaving to eat and shower (and do the other necessities). He would say that he is fine, but his actions say otherwise. Even talking to him is hard, cause you can’t disagree with him whatsoever, and you need to constantly think about how to phrase your words to not get him mad. I started to notice this trait in me recently. Take today for example, my mother was talking to me about how I need to leave the house more, meet people, make connections and learn new things. I know she is right, but I get extremely uncomfortable (the feeling is multiplied due to another problem I’m facing, but that’s not the topic today). After she finished talking I just went to my PC, playing video games to distract myself and not face the hard truth. (This isn’t the best example but it does the job). In this specific area, I do not want to be like my father. Not to my wife, or to my kids… Anyone has any suggestions or advice on how to address this issue? Side note: I’m not undermining any of the things he’s done to us, it’s just that (as I always do) I want to take the positives and leave the negatives. Thanks in advance! submitted by /u/Ok_Climate8599
Originally posted by u/Ok_Climate8599 on r/AskMen