My boyfriend I have have been together for quite some time now. When we have sex, he doesn’t react or show emotion, nor make any noises. I chalked this up to us both living at home and having to be quiet when others are around. In the times that we had alone time, he does not make a sound. Even when I go down on him he doesn’t make a sound nor make facial reactions but afterwards says he enjoys it. We spoken about this before and he said that he tries really hard to focus to make sure he doesn’t finish fast. I have noticed that he really tries not to finish right away and will actively stop during sex and apologies as he is close. When I asked him about this he said he feels bad that I would not be finishing first. I told him how I can be satisfied as I understand that this is not easy for him, and he does try to satisfy me using his hands. I try to initiate by talking dirty and doing foreplay but my boyfriend doesn’t say much, and if anything, also does not know what to say, even when I am asking yes/no questions like if he would enjoy this or if he wants me in a certain way. I really love him and I want to support him as I see how finishing can impact him in the moment. I do see that our environment is not ideal however I don’t know how much more I can take of the lack of emotional and verbal response during sex. Is there anything creative I can do to get his mind away from the logistics of sex and just enjoy it between us? submitted by /u/SoupJanitor
Originally posted by u/SoupJanitor on r/AskMen