I am a woman. In reflecting on my own actions, I realize that when I’m interested in a man, I up the touching (like will touch his arm if we’re talking and he says something funny, will hold onto his arm if I am following him in a crowd, etc.). I’ve also realized that I can get jealous when he’s with another girl (I don’t do anything about it lol but apparently people will notice that my smile starts to fade). I would say I usually stand on my own opinions, but I’ve realized that I am much less likely to disagree with anything he says (which is bad, I know - I think I just subconsciously don’t want to be combative with him). Of course, all of these things are so subtle and I doubt the man I’m currently interested in would ever pick up on any of these things, but now I am curious about the male psyche. For example, I go to a lot of concerts with this man (we’re in the same friend group). I frequently get approached by other men when I’m out. I usually just politely decline their advances and most guys take the hint and can be respectful, but every now and then there’s a relentless creep who won’t leave me alone. On two occasions, the man I’m interested in fought these guys off for me, not because I asked, but because he wanted to. I’ve noticed he can be extremely protective of me. He even told me on the last occasion that he “would’ve k*lled that creep” for me. I think this was a drug-induced exaggeration… but he did seem very passionate. Part of me thinks this was just an example of a testosterone-fueled man wanting to feel macho. But it also has me wondering: is this something men would do for any female friend? or is this man so protective of me because he likes me as more than a friend? or does this have nothing do with me at all and is instead due to male hormones? Granted, I have always thought this man had 0 interest in me (I think he’s way out of my league). But in thinking about my own subtle displays of affection, I’ve realized he has a tendency to move closer to/linger around me in group settings, never wants to talk about other girls within my earshot, and always asks for me to accompany him to concerts. I guess only time will tell if our friendship evolves into something more. But going back to my question, men: what are some subtle things you’ve done because you had romantic interest in a woman? submitted by /u/sratthrowaway3929281
Originally posted by u/sratthrowaway3929281 on r/AskMen