i (F24) have been with my man (M34) for almost 6 months, but we spent some time talking for a bit before making it official. we met at work (i’m no longer employed there) and we see eachother a few times a week. we communicate well but he is very shy and will not express his feelings unless we’re having a serious conversation - and even then, he has times fully expressing the way he feels due to past trauma. when we first started talking we had a long conversation of what we were looking for and our expectations of this relationship (ie. we’re not dating for fun. we both want something serious), and set boundaries early on so we were on the same page. that being said, he has made a few comments about the future but i am unsure how to read them - as small playful jokes or to take the seriously? one instance was calling my sister his “future SIL,” and another being “oh i’ll make sure to plan that for us next year too!” I am so head over heels in love with this man. he is my absolute dream man and i can’t see myself spending life with anyone else, but i haven’t told him how i feel yet out of fear he’s not quite at that same level. he treats me like a queen, he takes me out multiple times a week, and will make the short commute (30 mins or so) to come see me at my apartment, even if it’s only for a few hours. im waiting to tell him how i feel until he says the words first, unless it gets to a point where i feel like i can’t hold it in any longer. how do i know he feels the same with him being shy/having trouble fully expressing his feelings? submitted by /u/nebb987
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