I’ll be the first to admit that i’ve gotten feelings for people that i’ve been with casually. These are ones that have taken me around their families, told me they care about me, one even asked me to quit my job so that i could live with him AFTER we hooked up. I have a high drive so it’s taken me so long to discover that i should set clear intentions and boundaries with people before hooking up. This has led to some interesting conversations. I asked a guy why men want to have sex on the first date, but then get detached, disgusted, or annoyed afterward. He told me that he fully intended on having sex with me when we first met but that he’s glad he didn’t cause he probably wouldn’t still be talking to me. He said that men want that cause it’s a temporary ego boost, but they feel like they over indulged in something that they’re not sure they even wanted to begin with. “It’s like eating too much chocolate cake not knowing when the next time you’ll get it is.” He said. Internet rhetoric has presented a different perspective like that men are intentionally using women, lying to them just to have sex and don’t feel anything bad about using them. I’ve made peace with this possibility, as hard as it was to do so, but i want to get a perspective from the general public. I think i’ve exhausted my dates and my guy friends on this question. submitted by /u/bellpepperblues
Originally posted by u/bellpepperblues on r/AskMen
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