I found out my husband has been having multiple online affairs (possibly some physical, I just didn’t find evidence) like a month after our wedding day. He panicked hard when I was having a breakdown and swore to me it was something he’d been struggling with and didn’t know how to stop. Apologized profusely. I decided to stay because I figured I should give our marriage a chance before checking out completely — I do love him with everything in me. But now that it’s happened, I’m always on edge it’ll happen again. The term is “once a cheater, always a cheater” after all. So bluntly, are cheaters capable of change, how do you even know when a man has changed? I still feel like he doesn’t desire me physically, spends a lot of time on his phone, and I’ve woken up to him on his phone in the middle of the night when he thinks I’m asleep. I know it could all be in my head at this point, because sometimes he’s just extremely loving and attentive. submitted by /u/YesIAmOdd
Originally posted by u/YesIAmOdd on r/AskMen